THE BIBLICAL POLYGAMY BY PROPHET GOODNEWS ADOLPHUS

 Most women destroy their marriage themselves for the jealousy of another woman associated with their husband  and will stupidly pack out of his house because of the one-man-one-wife syndrome. The man would beg her to remain or to come back to the house but would  refuse. 

As she left, the other woman takes over the house. So the contention among the woman is to pack out the married woman out of her husband's  house so that she  takes over because he cannot marry two wives.  She could even consult spiritualists to solve this problem for her specially if the man is rich or have a good job since he cannot marry a second wife even though  he can comfortably take care of two wives.

Out of greediness and selfishness, she throws herself out of the marriage because she does not want to share her husband with another woman. In most cases, she also becomes another husband snatcher or  having casual sex with different men around who would not marry her; she also share  herself with the husbands of other women which she hates and packed out of her husband house and would  remain in that condition without getting married again until she grows old.  

 The woman that takes over the house stands the risk of leaving the house for the first woman if already the first woman have children with him. So this other woman would leave the house in shame after the man had reconciled with the first woman with children because he cannot marry both of them. So it takes the grace of God for her to get another man. Most women are willing to become either the second or third wife but do not see the opportunity as the result of the one-man-one-wife syndrome and because of these, several women  are outside the marital home all struggling to get just one husband.  

Therefore the quickest and easiest way for most women to get marry is to marry under the premarital sex option without the man fulfilling all the marital rites initially which is quite economical and approved by God provided they remain together as husband and wife  (Ex 22 16-17).

In the bible, any woman that the husband has not fulfilled her marital rites is called “concubine” and the other one that is fully married with marital rites is called ‘wife”. Thus father Abraham also had concubines that had children with him (Gen. 25:6). King David had four wives and ten concubines (2 Sam 20:3), King Solomon had three hundred wives and seven hundred concubines (1 King 11:1-3). King Solomon sinned because they were all foreign wives and concubines – no – Jew. They forced him to worshipped their gods and that was where God became offended- (worshipping foreign gods) and not because of the numbers of wives he married. Note this point carefully.   God allowed  the man by his financial status to marry as many wives he chooses. Thus God told King David that he gave him the wives of King Saul (after the dead of Saul) and if  that is not enough I would have added more  instead of taking Uriah’s  only wife.  ( 2 Sam. Chapter 12 ).  When two women are involved with a man as their husband then we can distinguish  between the two – who is the real wife or concubine but God recognizes  the two of them as wives – no discrimination.   

There are several rich men in most countries that can feed a whole community for at least one full year but they only limit themselves to one wife because of the one-man-one wife syndrome but making love to several girl friends they never take as concubine but pregnant them and force them to commit abortion because of their wives at home. Some of them die in the process of abortion and some ends up without bearing children even though they later marry. Such a woman could be your own daughter or your sister. This is the abomination of the one-man-one- wife syndrome. But God is not interested in distinguishing between wife and concubine. What he is so interested is that from the day a man and woman naked and make love, (either have fulfilled the marital rites or not) he recognizes them as husband and wife in as much as the customs and tradition of men vary from one tribe to another and across the world. 

He is not interested in any specific tradition as to become husband and wife of a particular race or tribe because marriage is not practiced in heaven;  and from that day onward, if you leave the man or woman and go after  another man  or woman secretly, you commit adultery because you have already established the sex bond as husband and wife. Therefore sex is not for fun but for marriage couple either traditionally married couple or concubine. 

More evidently, God recognized Uriah’s wife of David instead of any of his real wives and made her the queen mother of Israel and became the mother of King Solomon – the linage of the Messiah. God does not reason the way we reason and does not judge the way we  judge; so do not judge for him or detect for him the right way to do things as you feel or wish,  lest he turns against you.                   

The above option is economical to the advantage of both the man or woman because not every man have the money to fulfill those marital rites from the unset but  the man and the woman could sustain themselves and adjust to any condition they found themselves until God raise them up financially  and to fulfill the marital rites later and is never a curse or sin. 

 A girl waiting for a rich man to marry her may not marry until she reaches her menopause with grey hair. She shuns all the young men that come to ask for her hand in marriage but of low financial status.  But this other lady that follows the premarital sex option already married to her husband even with children; and as God blesses them, he goes to the parent and fulfill his marital obligation. So she commands   more  respect than the other lady who is still waiting for her rich Husband to arrive before she marries and she may be disappointed by different rich men who may take her to warm their beds and later abandon her which at first she considers it as a sin and does not want to give her body to anybody yet until she is fully married.  By the time she comes to look for premarital sex relationship already it is too late for her and had lost her virginity, her beauty and she is looking old.

So the premarital  sex relationship is more quicker and economical for a woman to get married without much stress on the side of the man provided they love themselves and not in the spirit of fornication but as husband and wife. In some culture, partial marital rites is  allowed. The husband could fulfill part of it either at the beginning of their marriage or later and  after they have children and still come back and complete the marital  rites.  

 The husband and his parents are very happy based on the fact that already she is proved fruitful and there is no lost on whatsoever amount of money they had spent during  the marriage ceremony. They consider it far better than the one the husband would spend all the money for the marriage ceremony but no child. Some rich men  do wed their bride with pregnancy and latter fulfill the traditional rites after she had been put to birth.  As tradition demands, they do not pay bride price while the woman is already pregnant until after she had been put to birth but can do church wedding with pregnancy.  

A NEW WAY TO MANGE A POLYGAMOUS HOME

Every married woman should bear in mind that God gives the man  an opportunity  to marry more than one wife and is not a sin.(Deut. 21:15-17). Therefore, if you live in a man’s house and you see him with another woman, do not rain fire and brimstone on him provided he does not ask you to pack out of his house and is taking care of you and your children. This could also give room to your daughter to get married easily and that could only be possible when marring more than one wife is not considered as a sin. In case your husband died or he devoiced you, you can easily marry another man - you may become either  a second wife or third wife  and still command  respect as a married woman and not a prostitute – moving from one man to another while your daughter too is also searching for her own husband. 

Sometimes you may even try to snatch your daughter’s boy friend or fiancée by seducing him because you want to marry him instead of your daughter since both of you are looking for a husband to marry specially if the man she is dating is handsome and rich. At the end, the man may take both of you to bed unknown to each other and run away. IT IS HAPPENING LIVE! So do not be selfish, greedy and jealous in your matrimonial home, it will become a blessing to your daughters who may become either the first or second wife to a very rich man and become a blessing to your family.

Now for the men, you know that polygamy is very problematic among women and their children – that is why most people avoid it. The bringing together of the women and their children under the same roof by one man known as their husband is a polygamous home. Each woman want to make love to their husband when it comes to her turn; contention of who give their husband  male child, mockery of the other women with female children but no boys, which of the wives the husband loves most, one woman may say, “He only  enjoys her food not mine, he bought her costly cloths and her children but bought me inferior clothes and my children”.  Sometimes, the man would love to pass the night with one more than the other –it may be she is sweeter than the other and the one displeased would give him condition before he passes the night with her if he had lost taste on the one he loved more like the story of Jacob and his two wives –Lea and Rachael the two daughters of Laban.

The woman would tell her children, “your father  married me fully by fulfilling all the martial rites.  So I am his real wife others are just concubines. I will take the lion’s share of his possessions with my children when he dies; after all I have male children for him” . Some wicked women will go to witch doctor in order to kill the other woman or her children because of the husband possession etc. These are some of the problems surrounding polygamy.  

Evidently, Leah accused Rachael of snatching her husband from her when she came to demand from her mandrakes which Ruben her first son brought from the field and refused to give her.  Leah was humiliated by her Junior sister Rachael who always begged her husband before he passed the night with her but spent most of the nights with Rachael. In today’s world we may say, “it may be she gave him  love portion to forget about her elder sister”  In her refusal to give Rachael  the mandrakes,  this is what she told her elder sister:-  “well for the sake of the Mandrakes I will allow him to pass the night with you” .Could you imagine that?  


 So Leah only make love to Jacob whenever Rachael permitted him. So did Rachael controlled Jacob?  Based on Rachel’s approval to pass the night with him,  Leah used that as an opportunity for her to  approach Jacob who just returned from the field and ask him  to pass the night with her before he eats Ruben Mandrakes based on Rachael's approval ; and based on this condition,   he passed the night with her;  and in that same night she conceived and latter gave birth to Issachar  her fifth son; and she conceived again and gave birth to another son she named ”Zebulon” meaning “ Now my husband will dwell with me because I have born him six sons” Therefore a male child was a priority to win her husband’s  heart when Rachael has none because God shut her womb against Jacob because God is interested in the first wife and must give her own rights  as he instructed through Moses (Deut.  21:15-17).

 Leah made mockery of Rachael through the names of the sons she born to Jacob to offend her junior sister whom she accused of stealing her husband. But those mockery names became highly prophetic. The two most outstanding names are "LEVI AND JUDAH".   As she gave birth to Levi she said,  “This time my husband will be joined unto me  because I have born him three sons meaning  of Levi -  the father of the priesthood  tribe of Israel – the reconciliators and mediators between  God and his people through scarifies and offerings in the days of old. As for Judah she said just SIX  WORDS “NOW I WILL PRAISE THE LORD” meaning of Judah – , THE ROOT OF DAVID, THE ROYAL HOUSE OF DAVID,  THE KING OF PRAISE, THE SWEET PSALMIST OF ISRAEL, THE CHOIR MASTER OF THE CHOIR MASTERS , THE COMPOSER OF MUSIC  AND MUSICAL INSTRUMENT INVENTOR, THE BUILDER OF THE FIRST TEMPLE OF PRAISE, THE LINAGE OF THE MESSIAH THROUGH KING DAVID OF OLD. (GENESIS CHAPTER 29 AND 30)

Thus Leah THE GREAT HEROINE, defeated her junior sister Rachael in the contest  by producing the two most important and  powerful tribes of Israel – LEVI AND JUDAH  because she was Jacob's first wife; therefore God said to Moses said“ Every First Born is MINE”. ( Ex 13: 2 ). Later God opened Rachael’s  womb and gave birth to Joseph and Benjamin and the house of Joseph became the forerunner and the contemporary of the house  of Judah through Ephraim – Joseph's second son.  They were represented by Joshua of Joseph tribe and Caleb of Judah that led the children of Israel into the promised  land after the dead of Moses and Aaron the great Levites.

From the story of Leah and Rachael you can imagine the kind of problem and challenges surrounding  polygamous marriage which require enlightenment and education. But based on the fact that the whole mindset of some Christians is based on on-man-one-wife (monogamy), lots of books had been written and lot of marriage seminars held on monogamy alone  but none about polygamy which they considered as sin contrary to what is written in the bible and where King David himself was a polygamous husband the royal line of the Messiah. 

Based on the fact that polygamous marriage reduce unmarried population of the women, we cannot totally do away with it in as much as sex itself is polygamous in nature and eliminate prostitution, fornication, adultery, abortion and impotency in men that are not created of the same nature. Therefore there is the need to provide solution to the problems surrounding polygamous marriage because it will help our society a great deal particularly the women folks.

 One of the major problem in polygamy is the bringing  of the women under the same roof with the husband even in the same compound. It sparks off enviness, heated, jealousy etc among the women as they see each other every day and  every night and among their children as well. Staying far  from each other is the best bet. Today’s world is a global village – so distance is no longer a barrier unlike in the old days where technology of our kind was not availables. You can travel to any part of the world by air in a matters hours and minutes, you communicate with any person around the world as if he or she is talking to you in the same room and by internet. For example, you could marry in different states of province and best of all internationally. You could have a wife in Port Harcourt and the other wife in Abuja or Lagos and in other parts of the world depending on your financial status and the caliber of women you wish to  marry.

Any of the women in those places sees you as her only husband without seeing a rivalry within the area. So she remains secure with her children. Any of the assets you have in that region belongs to her and her children without any of her mate meddling into her privacy. In that case, you have automatically shared your assets to your wife and children  before you die in any of the regions your have your family. Nobody drag property with one another – neither your wife nor her children.  

 You should let the other woman you are proposing to marry  know that you have another wife and children elsewhere do not deceive her. If she says that is not a problem, you go ahead with your marriage and you progarmme youself on how long you are going to spend with your wife in each location.

 It better for those with an independent job such as  being in business involving the two countries for example import and export(buying and selling of locally made goods which has a demand in the other country and other professional services from both ends and avoid prohibited items by customs). You can also involve in inland trade – buying goods in Port Harcourt and selling in Abuja and from Abuja to Port Harcourt or in other cities as applicable in other parts of the world.  You can spend two weeks or month in each location with this woman and her children. Some offshore workers spend two weeks to one month or more before they see their wife and children.  But since you are an independent business man or professional, do not spend too long a time with one woman alone. Programme your time equally so that one woman does not feel cheated. 

The women may not see each other yet but as time goes on,  the children would like to know of their brothers and sisters within the country and in overseas when they are of age unless one among them is barren. 

As for the women,  they would know each other later through the children that had already established contact with one another even before their father would known it. The woman seeing the love existing between the children, each of them  will be pretending to love each  other as wives of the same husband and based on the fact that since they do not live together with their children under the same roof, they do not know each other good and bad character. So each would pretend to be a very loving and good wife to the husband having known that she is not his only wife. They would share their love to the children in general as if they have two mothers born of the same father based on the fact that they do not live together under the same roof but see each other from time-to-time; so they would love to see each other all the time and share their problem and helping each other in any parts of the world. 

 If in the same state or province, they must stay far apart so that they do not see each other too often. Some women would love to see the other wife – if she is ugly or beautiful than her, whether you are spending too much on her than herself, how many children you have with her, her financial and educational status etc and then start to make problem with you due to jealousy and enviness. 

This  is one of the advantage of a separate polygamous home. In addition to that,  one could be deceived that it increases population but by far one-man-one-wife increase population more than polygamy. For example, a man that marries five wives that are very fruitful one may feel that will produce so many children but if you share another five women to five men that are also fruitful, their population will be more than the one with five wives. The one with five wives, would share the time he makes love to  each wife but some times each of the wives would miss her period of conception because the husband  is passing that night with another wife – so she misses her chance of being pregnant at that night but that is not the case with the one-man-one-wife marriage of the five men  and five women; each woman will  not miss her conception because they are always  together both day and night – so they produce more children than the man with five wives and  that is causing population explosion which result to shortage of food, joblessness, prostitution, abortion and birth of bastard criminals. 

Cont. in part 16