THE RULES OF POLYGAMY BY PROPHET GOODNEWS ADOLPHUS

Under polygamy, it is quite problematic to keep women under the same roof rather they should stay far apart – living in different states or provinces and in different countries depending on the financial status of the husband and the caliber of women he married. Most women do not need the money of the husband but want to bear his name as married women and most of them have good jobs and operating a good business with good educational background.  However, a man with sound financial background can also marry a woman with poor financial back ground and education depending on the love the man has for her.

But the issue of “one-man-one wife" is the greatest fear among women which is affecting both the married and the unmarried. The married woman always suspects the husband whenever she sees any woman around him with the fear that she would snatch her husband from her and she and her children will remain strantded because is a matter of one-man-one-wife with the believe that is a sin for a man to marry more than one wife. As for the woman not yet married, she is always afraid of the man’s wife so that she would not be embarrassed  even though she is having casual sex with her husband secretly. 

Eventually she becomes pregnant, the man would force her to terminate it for fear of his wife. This woman may be very close to her menopause and this pregnancy becomes her last hope but  unfortunately, the man does not want to claim responsibility.   ‘Should I terminate it or give birth to a bastard child?’ She asks herself in tears. The man may even give her the money to abort it in order to assure her of his seriousness and does not want to have problem with his wife at home who may report him to their pastor in the church because it is a sin to commit adultery and must not marry two wives. 

So the man is committing three sins at the same time – abortion, adultery and marrying two wives at the same time through fornication.  In some cases, the lady may die during abortion or survived with a very deep regret and still searching for another man. 

Most men are naturally sex maniac – in order words,  have great sexual urge for women than other men because  all the men are not created the same way.  No matter how holy he claims to be yet he still have secret lover outside in most cases with a  prostitute.  Evidently,  so many great men of God are caught with prostitute in the hotels.  Some are caught with their lady members during outreach or evangelical programme using it as an opportunity  while  lodging  in hotels. This is where they know the real men of God.  However, such sin cannot stop the anointing in him    rather continue flowing to encourage him  to sin more until he is caught and be disgraced before he realize himself.

Most married men do look for other women outside because they have  lost sexual urge  with  their wivies and lost erection but get  erection whenever they make love to another women outside their matrimonial homes which may be their  girl or woman friends and get sexual satisfaction. If  a man does not have someone else and has lost erection, the wife becomes worried because he could no longer perform and they attributed it to be evil spirit. Before you know it, the wife too would look for a spare part outside in order to satisfy her sexual huge; it may be a very young man far below her age bracket. This could break their marriage if the husband notices that she is committing adultery with another man likewise the woman.  This type of man can only manage his sexual drive with two wives alternatively and not depending on one wife alone. Therefore,  this kind of man with unusually sexual drive  becomes a blessing to other women outside looking for husband to become a second wife instead.  

God did not create all men with the same sexual drive – he created them differently in order to fulfill different purposes. A  man may lost his erection as he constantly making love to his wife without an alternative. He no longer has the sexual urge on that woman just as you eat the same kind of food all the time. Some couples can remain for months without making love and nobody complain because both of them have the same limited sexual drive. They do meet ones a while and the man does not lost erection but lost erection whenever they meet quite often because his sexual feeling about that woman has reached a saturated point.  Therefore,  if you do make love to your wife quite often,  you would lost erection naturally; unless you give a gap –say three weeks and above; the urge  will come back to you  because the sperm had been accumulated to be released which created the sexual urge to meet her and you are back again in full force.  No devil causes it – give a gap! 

Just as some men are hungry for food but lost appetite to eat when they keep eating the same kind of food until they eat something different that satisfy their apithied. Here, I mean, some men  have this kind of sexually drive naturally;  they are not always satisfy with one woman alone; even though he has lost erection for his wife,  yet he still have the sexual urge in him until he meets another woman before he will be satisfied as earlier explained. 

I regard it as  the spirit of fornication unless he also take this other woman for his second wife and does not making love to several women around like a prostitute but limited himself to his two wives as God approved ( Deut. 21:15-17). 

A woman looking for a husband would want him to take her for his second wife but he would refuse for fear of his wife because it is one-man-one wife affair. Since he does not want to marry her even if she becomes pregnant he would force her to abort it. As a result, would give him a very big demand in order to drive  him away because she feels that his  coming around her is blocking other men that wants to marry her. So in other to satisfy his sexual urge,  he would be  committing fornication with different women and wasting all his money on them while his wife at home continues to lament as a result of one –man –one wife sydrome. If he keeps another wife outside, he will limit himself to his two wives and spend less unlike those girl friends in the hotel.  

Some women too has great sexual drive; they cannot endure for some time until the husband regain himself. Such a woman can easily blow it up to the public that her husband has lost erection and that is why she is going after another man. In most cases, such women get pregnant from another men and give to their husbands. It is a shame for the married women to be meeting men outside when already she has her husband because she cannot marry two men unlike the man. She should pray to God to take away that high sexual drive from her so that she can enjoy her marriage else it could lead to  a broken home and when she is getting old,  she begins to regret it. Sometimes,  none of her children will take good care of her as a result of her broken home. So you must endure in a man’s house in order to avoid broken home. 

                                    

             TASTE

The above Five letter words “TASTE” is the king of sexuality; without it there will be not sex and reproduction. It controls both male and female. Every individual has different taste. In animal they have different smell or odor. For example, if you order three women to prepare stew and rice for you, they cannot give you the same taste even though they use the same incridents in equal proportion. Most women can cook very well because of her kind of taste but not all of them.  Some men cook better than women and some don't enjoy their wives food but do eat in the Restaurants because  do not have good taste.  The taste is in the palm of a woman’s  hand likewise the man and  that become her source of good taste which attracts customers in a restaurant business likewise the male cook. In term of sexuality , not all the women have the same taste  on the bed likewise the men.

 Consequently, If a man makes love to three women, he can easily distinguish between which of the three is sweet, sweeter and sweetest, likewise the woman will feel if she makes love to three different men; that means,  the body itself has different taste because the blood group and genotype of each individual of both male and female are not the same. 

Consequently, sex itself is polygamous and depend on taste and therefore is contrary to monogamy –which means is not a one-man-one-wife issue; if a particular taste in a woman has reached a saturation point in  man which demand an alternative woman, in the absence, can cause permanent impotentency depending on the individual.  Therefore,  sex is quite dependable on taste. Without that, a man will remain permanently impotent as soon as he lost erection for his wife; the urge cannot come to him again even though he sees another woman naked because he will feel that is the same taste with his wife; so he will not be moved and his condition remain the same.

 The man can regain his erection when he sees another woman with different taste. Before taking her to bed, just at first sight, he had already gained his erection because of the first  attraction as one gets attracted to a meal he never tasted before but looks very delicious with attractive aroma. The taste in this woman may be sweeter than his wife at home  but will later become exhausted too with her and the taste for his wife will return to him  and  will perform very well on her  alternatively. So sex is polygamous and not monogamous because it built on taste.  

Taste can break marriages. For example, a lady who had a boy friend but could not marry him because of his poor financial background,  can still maintain her relationship with him even after she is married to another man because of his taste likewise the man to a woman. So what brings a man and a woman together is the taste.

 Therefore,  most ugly men and women have better taste than beautiful and handsome men. God gives them that grace in order to attract marriage  partners. In that case, you see a wealthy man married to an ugly lady and beautiful lady to an ugly and poor man because of the taste. Is not the money that matters, because money answers all things  and one can satisfy himself sexually with several beautiful ladies with money and also  not the beauty of the woman that matters  because with her  beauty she attracts good things and wealthy men. Therefore,  you  see  a wealthy man with a beautiful wife still looking for other ladies and a beautiful wife  with her wealthy  husband still looking for another man in order to satisfy their taste. 

Therefore those men in  the western nations, where polygamy is prohibited, you see them keeping their wives in the house and meeting women  lodging in the hotels. They have freedom to devoice anytime in order to get access to other women and does not  stick to  only one woman  and use  that as an  alternative to polygamy. Consequently, monogamy (one-man-one-wife) boosts the tourist industries world-wide and the largest percentage of them come from the western nations as a way of relieving themselves from their wives and to get free access to other women anywhere in the world. So they consider vacation as their greatest privilege in life including some Asian nations where polygamy is prohibited because you cannot cheat nature.  In that case, it become a big boost to the sex industries both the western nations and abroad and in most cases some  of the women become the victim to the tourist industries by falling into the hands of  women traffickers who sexually abuse them as sex slaves to make money from tourists  both in the western nations and in different countries abroad. This is one of the evil of one-man-one-wife philosophy (monogamy).    

         

             SPIRITUAL CASTRATION

Jesus said, some people are made eunuch for the sake of God’s kingdom (Mat  19:10-11). You have read about the story of the Ethiopian eunuch (Acts 8:26-40).  Men are made eunuch or castrated like a dog in king’s palace so that they do not have feeling for the kings wives and cannot make love to them. 

Therefore, Queen Jezebel which was  King Ahab’s wife had eunuch that was her Body Guide who threw her out of the windows and scattered her body. ( 2 Kings 9: 30-33 ). The reason is that most Queens do admire handsome young men and use their royal influence to intimidate them in order to  make love to them when their husband is away. The same thing happened to Joseph and Potiphar wife but resisted her which landed him in the prison because Potiphar was one of the great men of Egypt that worked with Pharoah.

God also castrate  his great Prophets spiritually so that they do not fall victim to women like Prophet Elijah, Jeremiah and John the Baptist that spent all the days of their life in the wilderness apart from Prophet Jeremiah and  had no wife and no child. Under spiritual castration, the sexual urge for woman will be taken away from you. Like myself, I wedded in the year 2000 at the age of Forty and had my first son at the age of Forty-one because of my religious devotion when  I first appeared  in the wilderness of John the Baptist in 1981. My spiritual encounter with the angel that gave me the scroll greatly transformed my life as I begin to receiving visions from the holy bible from that day onward. 

Although,  I was still doubting about my calling until in 1984 when the mantle of Elijah arrived and the brimstone(sulphur)was given to me that now physically affect my body and the gases vibrating in me till date and I never take drugs.

Being in that state of mind, I have no feeling for women. Both my mother and family members were afraid feeling that I am completely out of the world and I am impotent since  I  have no interest in women.  But as I founded the church,  my members put pressure on me that I must have a wife else the husbands of the women in the church will be suspecting me because I have no wife and they will stop their wives from attending  church. So I married lately in the year 2000 at the age of 40 like Moses in the land of Median.

Now under castration, the strong feeling for woman will die in you and make love to your wife whenever you choose and not being over influenced by sexual urge.  Under spiritual castration, if another woman wants to tempt or seduce you, you get angry immediately and rebuke her and would not try it next time.  You can remain for months  and even for years without having feeling for any woman like Apostle Paul and the rest of the Apostles of Jesus Christ because they had been made eunuch because of God’s kingdom (Mat. 19:10-1). 

So it takes the grace of God to keep you in that state. But it has a role; you must be very busy in God’s work and prayerful and reading your bible all the time else you will be tempted and fall away. Most great men of God are not castrated spiritually that is why they often fall into the hands of women inspite of their great anointing.  Where there is  no woman to approach, they fall into child sexual abuse in order to satisfy their urge.  Sex itself is natural; so to refrain from it, you are waging war against nature which becomes a very difficult battle for most men of God.  That is why,  Jesus gives a special preference to virgin saints or eunuch to be raptured first into heaven and to become our heavenly Ambassadors because of their sexual sacrifice they offered while on earth.

Based on this factor, a man with a very high sexual drive should marry at least two wives and alternate between them in order to avoid lost of erection, impotency and adultry.  A real believer should ask  God to spiritually castrates him so that he does not fall into the sin of fornication, adultery and homosexuality.  

TO BE CONT. IN PART 15

THE MYSTERY OF THE SEVEN HORNS OF THE LAMB (13) BY PROPHET GOODNEWS ADOLPHUS

The preaching against polygamy has become the greatest obstacles to women all over the world from getting married. It is a weapon the devil uses to encourage prostitution, abortion and birth of  bastard criminals all over the world in as much as Christianity spread all over the world without a concrete proof from the holy bible but based on western industrialized  economy. 

Monogamy was introduced in Europe  between the 17^th and 18^th century during the industrial revolution when the machines were invented in order to take care of the labor force in agricultural production  and to eliminate the man –labor in the  farm lands. 

Prior to this era, subsistence farmers in Europe married more than one wife in order to boost agricultural production with their wives and children like in most part of the world. The demand for more house wives in order to boost agricultural production was reduced drastically as it seems quite economically advantageous to remain with one wife and children while the machines take care of the farm works. This economical consideration became a very big blow to the women's world in Europe and throughout the world. 

Contrary to this economic consideration, regular tribal, ethnic and even international wars never end which reduced the numbers of men killed in the battle field keeping the women widowed and frustrated the girls yet to be married. As the demand for men became very high among the women, it gave birth to the Women Revolution that shook the western world  within the 18^th century in order to have equal opportunity with the men in the labour force and to eliminate female discrimination   in the area of education and employment  due to the scarcity  of men who would have married them as they were depending on them  to take care of every aspect of their lives. Therefore,  the need for freedom and liberty arose  which was given to them simultaneously from one European  country to another as this protest was all over Europe including the United States of  America. 

Therefore women possessed  two kinds of jobs - one in the kitchen and one at the place of work;  before it was only  in the kitchen. The public job service gave the educated and unmarried women financial independence and could enjoy an independent life quite unlike the married women. The married women were guided by the marital  laws so they would comport their lives as married women unlike the unmarried that were financially independent . 

 Yet, men were still scarce as the world  war 1 and 2 had claimed the lives of several men in the battle field. In some European countries, the government advised the men to marry several wives like in Germany but the church leaders shot it down – saying it is a sin to marry more than one wife because Christianity  rules the west and each European country imitate the other.  But today they could not tell their government to stop abortion, gay marriage, lesbianism, prostitution and all kind of sexual abuse going all over the West and the world   and has put the whole women into total mess all over the world 

 At the end of the world wars, the West as a whole was technologically advanced  and more agricultural and other industrial machines were introduced. They were several cases in courts that reveal the disadvantages of marring more than one wife, dual citizenship involving other nations were also part of the problems that were involved in polygamy. Based on these and other  factors, they placed a ban on polygamy provided the machines are there to do the jobs while both married and unmarried women were  equally employed to work in those industries  and government offices. Those women that are not yet married became sex workers; so prostitution  became a legalized profession as well as abortion. The church could not stop it and had  now approved  gay marriage.  

These independency, gave the women to dress up  the way  they like in order to attrack men. Before it was forbidden for a woman to wear trousers. Some women were jailed in Europe for wearing trouser at first. After that era, the women can dress even half naked in the public all to attrack men to marry them and can sell her body to many men as possible and act sexual films. The church keep quite.Both the man and woman can divorce and  re-marry as many times as possible and men became so  exhausted to make love to women and decided  to make love to their fellow men through the anus instead of the female virgina.   . This is also a very big threat to the women world who are already shot of men to marry them as men are going after their fellow men and abandoned them. 

 Since monogamy (one-man-one wife) has become a western industrialized culture,  the early  European preachers that spread Christianity to the  whole world through the former Colonial  Masters  now tie it up with the bible addressing monogamy as the only kind of marriage God approved  adding that if you marry two wives you will go to hell fire.  So it becomes a very serious doctrine in the church all over the world.  Wedding is a Western  culture and tradition and that is their traditional marriage ceremony. But churches outside Europe advice members to observe two wedding ceremonies – one is the native wedding and the other is the white man wedding in the church.


 Till today, the Jews do not perform white man wedding only their traditional marriage. One of the rules guiding marriage is that, a man must not have sex with the woman until after wedding –they have no regard for the virginity of a woman to be observed first as God permits unlike the Jews as almost every woman in  West can sleep with any man  or boy friend and may decide to  marry another man and not her former boy friend and can divorce and re-marry as many times as possible unlike other cultures where the woman is bound to the man until dead. 

The worst of  it is that they discourage pre-marital sex consider as a sin and destroy marriages whose couples have already given birth to  children and consider those children as children of fornication contrary to what God said in the bible. Thus churches separate husband and wife and children adding if they do not separate they will go to hell fire but only encourage monogamy being  a Western  industrialized economic  culture.  Marry only one wife is not applicable to every Christian contrary to what is stated in the bible.  They are the cause of several broken homes to encourage prostitution, abortion and increase the frustration of women world-wide. Although not all the churches preach against polygamy but the so called “bible believing churches”;  they frustrate the women from getting married to other men that are already married contrary to what God said in the bible ( Deut. 21:15-17). 

The daughters of those bible believing churches commits abortion more often than other churches because they are always afraid of their parent in case they are found pregnant by men outside wedlock . But the other churches do not worry  about it;  even encourage the relationship until their girl is put to birth successfully and do not consider  it as a curse  and even wed them with pregnancy without paying bride price for the man  to be sure that  the girl is fruitful and not to pray for a miracle after marriage. 

 But some of the parents of those believing churches would do all they could to ensure she abort the pregnancy before other church members come to know about it.  So it is very secretive. They insist that their daughters must not have sex with any man until they are fully married but never check their  virginity before marriage. If they want to maintain that standard like the Jews as God commanded in the bible, then they must give room for the man to check the virginity of their girl first before the man pays the bride price and that is what God approved in the bible and not before marriage. .  

 Most of them had already been disvirgined by other men  and even had sex with the man she wants to marry on several occasion even in the night before the wedding day. The same people that preach that premarital sex is sin never allow the man to check their daughters virginity before paying the bride price contrary to what God stated in the bible. This  also include the father who must have had sex with other women even his own wife before he paid her bride price. So she was not a virgin before he married her. He must have had girls friends before he married and might have divorced one or two women with their children before he married this one but now claim to be a true born again and breaking other people’s  marriages with children in the name of holiness  and to make heaven at the end. 

The story  of Adam and Eve are one of the portions in the bible used by those preachers stating that God created Adam and gave Eve to  him  as his only wife not two  wives but ignored the fact that their offsprings were not a boy and a girl alone but were two boys namely Cain and Abel and duaghters which negates one-man –one-wife. Thus the blood group and genotype vary from one women to another unless she meets the right man she cannot born – so is not generally for every man and woman to marry and born children. The life span of men are shorter than women because of wars and women have birth limit which is menopause; so if she fails to marry on time, it will be too late for her to have kids unlike the man. So generally, they are not created like the men. If God had made it one man one wife, then they will be no war to claim several lives of men and leaving the women alone and there will be no discrepancy about menopause,  blood group and genotype.  See this link for more details

https://www.debate.org/debates/Polygamy-should-be-legalized-in-the-West/1/

In the book of Timothy, Apostle Paul gave instruction for those Christians  in the churches  that are aspiring to become Deacon or Bishop to stick to one wife as a criterion. Paul did not impose it on every member of the church and never mentioned that is a sin to marry more than one wife- not at all! Because not every member of the church wants to become a Deacon or a Bishop but  these  churches today  are imposing it on every member of the church to marry only one wife based on the western industrialized economy  and using it to destroy marriages even  those with children which has no base in the bible from Genesis to the book of  Revelation.  Apostle Paul gave this criterion to would be Deacon or Bishop to head the churches based on the fact that they were several polygamous husbands  (marrying more than one wife) in all churches at that time. They did not drive them away.  Some of them were subsistence  farmers whose wives and children helped to boost agricultural production and who out of it pay tithes and offering and assisted the Apostles and other church workers and member in need. 

Therefore Apostle Paul only limited it to those who wanted to become seasoned Deacon and Bishops as head of the churches and did not impose it on all the members of the churches as doctrine to marry only one wife.  None of the Apostles of Jesus Christ including Apostle Paul himself  state that marrying more than one wife is a sin rather is a matter of choice and not compulsory  (1Timothy chapter 3). Also, as a matter of choice or as an aspiration, a man or woman may decide to remain without marriage for the sake of God’s kingdom as eunuch or virgin  as Jesus recommends  (Mat chapter 19:10-12). Apostle Paul also recommends that in order to avoid fornication you may marry if you cannot refrain from sex. (1 Cor. 7:9). 

 So marriage affairs is entirely a matter of choice - whether you want to marry only one wife to become a Deacon or  Bishop or  want to  forfeit that offer and want to marry more than one wife or you want to remain without marriage all the days of your life -  the choice is yours – it is not compulsory provided you are still in the faith doing the work of God and keep the necessary commandment even though as human being you cannot keep all the laws but you are declared righteous by  the grace of God like Abraham, Jacob and other that married several wives and are declared righteous by his grace. They started the race before you why do you make things very difficult to others in the faith and creating confusion like those Pharisees in the time of Christ?!.

 Look at the big trouble you have caused to all the women all over the world and the sexual abuses going on right in the house of God and you cannot control it rather you would say, “all are signs of the end time”; but you forget that judgment will begin from the house of God? (1 Peter 4:17). So you the priest must be judged first before the world is judged and you must give account of  all the marriages you have broken, the children you have frustrated, the gay marriage you organized, how you discourage polygamy but gay marriage, the abortion you encouraged, and forcing our girls into prostitution because of your preaching against polygamy and more even when you die today!.    You must he accountable for all the souls you have destroyed. 

More evidently, Jesus the Chief Judge on the day of Judgment, gave a proverb of the ten virgin – all to marry to  one man  called the “Bridegroom” but  only married the five that were wise. So his teachings prove to us that marrying more than one wife is never a sin but is a matter of choice (Mathew chapter 25)

To be cont. on part 14

THE MYSTERY OF THE SEVEN HORNS OF THE LAMB (12) BY PROPHET GOODNEWS ADOLPHUS

THE AGAPE ATTACK: WARNNG AGAINST PREMARITIAL SEX RELATIONSHIP

God is love and Love is God that created the universe. Love is jealous therefore he said “….I am a jealous God” (Ex 20:5  ). Love has no form or shape; is unconditional because you cannot see its form to love. You may say  “I love that man because he is handsome”; that is not love; “I love him because of his wealth”; that is not love. When handsomeness is gone due to sickness, your love for him will fade away likewise if his wealth is gone – this is conditional love.

‘I love that lady because she is beautiful”: when her beauty fades away your love for her fades away. ‘I love that lady because she sings very well in the choir”; that is not love because when she drops the microphone you would hate her because of her character likewise the man with a good voice. All of these are conditional love. But the real love is the Agape love  that can withstands the test of time and adaptable to any condition and situation. Although the man or woman may be very ugly, disable, poor, barren, frustrated etc you still love him or her; that is the AGAPE LOVE that God had for us. Therefore it is written “For GOD so love the world that he gave his only Begotten Son; that whosoever believeth  in him should not perish but have everlasting life” (John 3:16). And that Agape Love is the unconditional love without shape or form and God expects us to give him the Agape love in return. Thus it is written “When we are yet sinners, he loves us” (  Rom. 5: 8). Therefore Apostle Paul said “What can separate me from the love of Christ. 
( Rom 8: 35-39)         

Between a man and a woman, this kind of Love could be dangerous based on the following factors:  The Agape kind of love is dangerous because it is full of jealousy. Can cause anything negative if not carefully handled. The man or woman may commit suicide if one disappoints the other and go after another man or woman and may commit murder because of jealousy and that is why whenever the children of Israel turned away from him and worshiped another gods, in jealousy he allowed enemies to invade their lands and carried them away into captivity. 


These are what the Agape love could cause a man and woman because it is unconditional and wild. But the conditional lovers don’t because the man or the woman still have alternatives – it means, both of them have spare parts outside their relationship although they pretend to be very faithful to one another. So that if one part is damaged, they can easily switch over to another. Meaning each of them have secret lover; so that if one disappoints he or she switch over to another. Sometimes because of the lover outside, he or she could create problem for them to separate . But the Agape  lovers feel that  is the end of the world because his or her lover is dead, or has gone after another man or woman, after all the sacrifices. They either kill their lover, deform with acid or commit suicide.

More dangerously, Christ demostrated his agape love he had for us on the cross as a virgin love for us to repent from all our sins; therefore wants us to give him back  our agape love in retun through repentance from sin;  but  if you die in your sins, he will cast you into the lake of fire buring with brimestone  and the brimetone become the acid he will baptize you because of his jealosy.  You are warned!

But  between a man and a woman, the advantage of it is that because of the faithfulness attached in Agape love, one of the partners being disappointed by the other partner is rewarded by another man or woman; if poor now became rich; if barren now become fruitful; if sick of internal problem latter became healed. It naturally transforms the condition of that man or woman by the special grace of God and even fall again  into the hand of anther agape lover.

But to the other partner that disappoints, will never have peace either the man or the woman. The Agape spirit will fight him or her anywhere on earth. Will not settled down in marriage and cannot bear children in most cases; if she bears, they will not survive. Anything that would make the man or woman enjoy her marriage, the Agape spirit will attack and destroy it including his or her economy unknown to the man or woman that was disappointed. The Agape spirit which is the real nature of  God can cause either a marine spirit or ancestral spirit to possess him or her anywhere he or she  goes in the world and if inquire from spiritualists, will be told that he or she is possessed by demonic spirit just as it happened to king Saul when he disobey God  ( 1 Sam. 16:14  ) 

HOW TO AVOID AGAPE ATTACK

Agape attack is more in premarital sex relationship and not when the man and woman are fully married based on tradition. Couple that are fully married based on tradition do not separate so easily for fear of the consequences they would face if she leaves the man’s house and will  remain with him in any condition until dead separate them.  In most culture even though they no longer make love as  husband and wife due to internal disagreement or health problem, the man will never send her away for fear of the consequences even though he  marries another  woman. In some cultures, if she commits adultery with another man, will be killed.

But that is not the case with premarital sex relationship commonly known as “Boy friend and Girl friend Marriages”. She can quit anytime even the man as well even though they have children – they are not bound by traditional rules and customs. Therefore, premarital sex relationship is quite synonymous with broken homes and their children suffer it most when their mother later marries another man likewise the man.  The new husband would not want to see those children around him likewise the new wife he would marry. Their step mother or father would become very hostile to them using all kind of mockery words and abuses.  Some ends up becoming street boys and call girls because they are on their own. So it is better for woman to endure and remain with a man no matter how worse is their condition because of her children that is why God makes you a mother. Motherly care is better for the children than fatherly care. They will see the difference when he marries another woman and when their mother had abandoned them and marries another man.  

Under such relationship, the mother or the father of the girl may disagree of the relationship; but before they know it, she is already pregnant for him. Under such disagreement he would marry her and gives them grand children. No customs and tradition attached, no bride price paid yet. Sometimes, the couple may have grand children as well before the man would go and meet with  the parent to start fulfilling his marital obligation as the customs and tradition demands and sometimes some of their children are already in the universities and some have finished schooling and some must have married and have grand children as well. This is the most common type of marriage in most of the civilized world.

Under the  premarital sex relationship is possible to find agape lovers unlike the fully married couples that are already bound by their customs and tradition and the wife never leave the house until dead separate them but under the premarital sex relationship they can part away any time; so it naturally requires the agape love to keep them together independently.


            " VIRGIN LOVE” and “DISVIRGINED LOVE”

Now there are two types of agape love; one is without sex and the other involves sex;  but the one without sex is more dangerous than the one with sex. The agape love without sex is what I called “VIRGIN LOVE” and that one with sex I called “DISVIRGINED LOVE” based on the following factors:-

Under the virgin love, the man had not known her sexually but keep on appealing to her with lover which might take some numbers of years (1 -3 years or more); therefore his love for her is still virgin likewise the woman . Although if either of them latter marries, whenever they see each other in public places feels guilty and ashamed depending on who disappoints the other because the love is still virgin. They will remain in that state of mind until dead. The guilt comes up as they see each other, immediately, the woman or the man would remember the true love he or she exhibited to him or her and now going through in the hands of different men or women in search of true love  and that could take some numbers of years before he or she could realize it;  may be that she had got children from different fathers or him from different women yet they are still searching for real love. Both the man or the woman will be suffering from constant emotional torture and heart break from one woman to another and from one man to another in search of real love because the agape love will naturally fight back anywhere they live   in the world.  Sometimes the man or woman remains barren without children and they attribute it  to evil spirit and would fight his or her economy just as the Lord told Satan to tempt Job and destroyed all his wealth including his children without the man or the woman knowing it cause.

Also the lady might be a virgin from birth and a man engages her before he travels to abroad and forgets about the engagement while the lady is waiting for him to return to fulfill his martial rites but disappointed her and fall in love with another woman and she later married to another man.  The man could return to her after had been tortured by Agape spirit while in abroad through other women he fell in love with and later return home but discover  that  already the home lady he engaged for marriage has married to  another man and so continue to remain in that condition- jumping from one woman to another.

 He now realized the faithfulness of that lady because he could not find any of her type likewise the woman if she disappoints the man because of another man. Under this situation, prayers and fasting cannot solve it even though he approached any famous man of God to pray for him. Unless he goes back to her and apologize and make restitution privately  if necessary but she must not break her marriage or have fun with the  man secretly because if they  do  they have committed adultery hecause she is with another man already either in full traditional marriage or premarital sex relationship. God considers them as husband and wife.

But if the lady refused his proposal entirely and no engagement yet that is even worst because she must reciprocate his kind gesture  in other words  appreciate the degree of love he has demonstrated to her even though she would refuse him taking her to bed but shall become friends even though she marries another man of her choice. But if she does not appreciate but take it as a pride no man would love her. She will in return give all her heart to a man of her choice but the man will fail her and so she will be moving from one man to another in search of true love but will be very so scarce just as she did to the man because love itself is a spirit and is God that created the whole universe and therefore has power to create and to destroy. So “it does not matter” does not come in but it matters a lot in the spiritual world. That is why so many men and women are frustrated  in their marriage even though they have children from different women and different men yet their children  ignore them because they did not care for them. They only do anything to please and to protect their marriage with the new husband or wife to the detriment of the children. 

“Disvirgined” love means already the man has taken the woman to bed but they do not marry and that is fornication. Sex is for a purpose; either you use it in marriage or for fornication in case of casual sex. One may say “I do not want to marry him or her; we are just friends” – which is fornication. A man and woman can become friends but if they go to bed then it no longer friend rather they are fornicating. Therefore it is a sin for man or woman to open her mouth to tell somebody that he is my boy friend or girl friend or man or woman friend when already they do go to bed. The bed is for marriage couples and not for casual sex or fornication and sex is the bond between a man and woman in marriage. Therefore when a man or woman had seen each other even just one day God sees them as husband and wife without any protocol to be observed. In that case he disregards any traditional rites or official marriage ceremony because already they have known themselves on the bed as husband and wife.

The disvirgined love does not have so much impact on each other unlike the virgin love which does not involve sex. Even though they have seen themselves on the bed on ones or  several occasions but refuse to marry which may be either the man or the woman refuse to marry him or her, and eventually, she or he latter marries to another man or woman, they do not feel guilty for disappointing themselves because already their love had been disvirgined through sex. Sometimes if they meet on the road after they had separated for several years ago, the woman might pretend that she does not know him and would not extend any greeting to him likewise the man. They behave as stranger to each other and the woman would be regretting to have given her body to the man to know her. In some cases, they would greet each other but no much impact or feeling any guilt or regret because already they have known themselves on the bed. Unless the man or the woman disappointed him or her because of another man or woman but later the relationship with the new man or woman was broken; that is where he or  she would come back to him or her to render an apology so they can come back again if he or she had not married yet because already they have had the sexual bond long time ago.

 It is very easy for them to come back again and even re-marry and not those of virgin love. The problem of virgin lovers is that already the man had vowed that he will never talk to her again about love after he had received all the insults and abuses for several years from her and yet disappointed him. He will hold on to his ground even unto dead while at the same time becomes  a very big problem to the woman spiritually  as she would be overwhelmed with guilt for disappointing him after she must have seen herself passed through several men and all of them disappointed her and that is the power behind the virgin love where there is no sex involved. 


Therefore, the virgin love takes over the nature of marine spiritual husband or ancesstoral spirit tormenting her and goes beyond casting and binding by any man of God on earth but it is possible for a disvirgined lovers because of the sexual bond that they  have had before. They are still seen as husband and wife even though they separated several years ago.  Prayer could be easily effective by binding and casting because the bond is there and can reconcile at anytime and or he or she can have peace with his new wife or her husband even though they do not come together again in marriage because already they have satisfied themselves sexually and the woman does not owe the man love because she had given her body to him in return as conpensation for his love for her. That is why it does not have so much impact on the woman unlike the virgin love. 

The only solution is that she should later show appreciation to the man even though he is happily married. By greeting him well, associating with him occasionally if there is an opportunity like place of ceremonies, sending him gifts, apologizing to him about the  insults and abuses he had  suffered in the cause of appealing to her in those years. He should never think of taking her to bed  because already he had vowed that he will never talk to her again about love; so he must keep on to his vow. If he fails and take her to bed, it will take away his life because love kills. Based on the fact that the lady suffers all these because of him and must not betray the agape spirit that wage war against her when already he had vowed; so it is considered  as a betrayal on his part. So the lady should   make peace with him and seeing each other as friends as explained above; that is the only solution that will gradually restore her happiness.  She must take away shame in the process of making peace with him as a woman. 

The man must be sure that he actually needs a wife before involved in .premarital sex relationship and not to deceive the lady whom he had already seen her nakedness and then abandon her for another lady;  and using this same method  to deceive women around with all kind of fake promises of marrying them. 

God is a witness between  you and the wife of your youth under the premarital sex relationship you called “my Girl Friend or Boy Friend”. What God needs from both of you are Godly offerings (God fearing children). He hate you divorcing her for another woman for being so unfaithful to her after you have taken her to bed and had become husband already in the eye of God (Mal. 2:14-16). 


Sex determines the sin of fornication and without sex there is no marriage and without sex no sin of fornication or adultery. Therefore, if a man marries a wife and fulfills all the marital rites legally but refuse to make love to her she is not yet his wife. But right from his house she begin to play secret love with another man who takes her to bed she becomes his real wife right from the first day and not the man who paid her bride price and had fulfill all the marital rites because God only recognize “sex” as the bond binding both of them and not the  price paid which is optional because marital rites and bride price is the fulfillment of the customs and tradition of men on earth and not in heaven (Mat. 22:28 ).

Therefore sex becomes the ultimate and  the determining factor which attract the sin of fornication (like  prostitute moving from one man to another or from one woman to another ) and Adultery (if already married with a man or woman but do have casual sex with another man secretly). None payment of bride price will not land you in hell fire but the sin of fornication.(moving from one man to another man and from one woman to another without settled down with a man or a woman in marriage). A man may decide to give his own daughter to another man in marriage free of charge without demanding dowry. During war time, you may choose any woman you like from your enemies and marry her after her parent her killed  and no dowry is paid and no marriage ceremonies held. (Deut. 21:10-14) 

Therefore if you deceive a lady and she lay curse on you it will affect you in as much as both of you have seen each other on the bed and the same applies to the woman because sex is the bond and not the wedding ring or marriage certificate that makes you husband and wife. 

To be cont. in part 13