THE MYSTERY OF THE SEVEN HORNS OF THE LAMB (12) BY PROPHET GOODNEWS ADOLPHUS

THE AGAPE ATTACK: WARNNG AGAINST PREMARITIAL SEX RELATIONSHIP

God is love and Love is God that created the universe. Love is jealous therefore he said “….I am a jealous God” (Ex 20:5  ). Love has no form or shape; is unconditional because you cannot see its form to love. You may say  “I love that man because he is handsome”; that is not love; “I love him because of his wealth”; that is not love. When handsomeness is gone due to sickness, your love for him will fade away likewise if his wealth is gone – this is conditional love.

‘I love that lady because she is beautiful”: when her beauty fades away your love for her fades away. ‘I love that lady because she sings very well in the choir”; that is not love because when she drops the microphone you would hate her because of her character likewise the man with a good voice. All of these are conditional love. But the real love is the Agape love  that can withstands the test of time and adaptable to any condition and situation. Although the man or woman may be very ugly, disable, poor, barren, frustrated etc you still love him or her; that is the AGAPE LOVE that God had for us. Therefore it is written “For GOD so love the world that he gave his only Begotten Son; that whosoever believeth  in him should not perish but have everlasting life” (John 3:16). And that Agape Love is the unconditional love without shape or form and God expects us to give him the Agape love in return. Thus it is written “When we are yet sinners, he loves us” (  Rom. 5: 8). Therefore Apostle Paul said “What can separate me from the love of Christ. 
( Rom 8: 35-39)         

Between a man and a woman, this kind of Love could be dangerous based on the following factors:  The Agape kind of love is dangerous because it is full of jealousy. Can cause anything negative if not carefully handled. The man or woman may commit suicide if one disappoints the other and go after another man or woman and may commit murder because of jealousy and that is why whenever the children of Israel turned away from him and worshiped another gods, in jealousy he allowed enemies to invade their lands and carried them away into captivity. 


These are what the Agape love could cause a man and woman because it is unconditional and wild. But the conditional lovers don’t because the man or the woman still have alternatives – it means, both of them have spare parts outside their relationship although they pretend to be very faithful to one another. So that if one part is damaged, they can easily switch over to another. Meaning each of them have secret lover; so that if one disappoints he or she switch over to another. Sometimes because of the lover outside, he or she could create problem for them to separate . But the Agape  lovers feel that  is the end of the world because his or her lover is dead, or has gone after another man or woman, after all the sacrifices. They either kill their lover, deform with acid or commit suicide.

More dangerously, Christ demostrated his agape love he had for us on the cross as a virgin love for us to repent from all our sins; therefore wants us to give him back  our agape love in retun through repentance from sin;  but  if you die in your sins, he will cast you into the lake of fire buring with brimestone  and the brimetone become the acid he will baptize you because of his jealosy.  You are warned!

But  between a man and a woman, the advantage of it is that because of the faithfulness attached in Agape love, one of the partners being disappointed by the other partner is rewarded by another man or woman; if poor now became rich; if barren now become fruitful; if sick of internal problem latter became healed. It naturally transforms the condition of that man or woman by the special grace of God and even fall again  into the hand of anther agape lover.

But to the other partner that disappoints, will never have peace either the man or the woman. The Agape spirit will fight him or her anywhere on earth. Will not settled down in marriage and cannot bear children in most cases; if she bears, they will not survive. Anything that would make the man or woman enjoy her marriage, the Agape spirit will attack and destroy it including his or her economy unknown to the man or woman that was disappointed. The Agape spirit which is the real nature of  God can cause either a marine spirit or ancestral spirit to possess him or her anywhere he or she  goes in the world and if inquire from spiritualists, will be told that he or she is possessed by demonic spirit just as it happened to king Saul when he disobey God  ( 1 Sam. 16:14  ) 

HOW TO AVOID AGAPE ATTACK

Agape attack is more in premarital sex relationship and not when the man and woman are fully married based on tradition. Couple that are fully married based on tradition do not separate so easily for fear of the consequences they would face if she leaves the man’s house and will  remain with him in any condition until dead separate them.  In most culture even though they no longer make love as  husband and wife due to internal disagreement or health problem, the man will never send her away for fear of the consequences even though he  marries another  woman. In some cultures, if she commits adultery with another man, will be killed.

But that is not the case with premarital sex relationship commonly known as “Boy friend and Girl friend Marriages”. She can quit anytime even the man as well even though they have children – they are not bound by traditional rules and customs. Therefore, premarital sex relationship is quite synonymous with broken homes and their children suffer it most when their mother later marries another man likewise the man.  The new husband would not want to see those children around him likewise the new wife he would marry. Their step mother or father would become very hostile to them using all kind of mockery words and abuses.  Some ends up becoming street boys and call girls because they are on their own. So it is better for woman to endure and remain with a man no matter how worse is their condition because of her children that is why God makes you a mother. Motherly care is better for the children than fatherly care. They will see the difference when he marries another woman and when their mother had abandoned them and marries another man.  

Under such relationship, the mother or the father of the girl may disagree of the relationship; but before they know it, she is already pregnant for him. Under such disagreement he would marry her and gives them grand children. No customs and tradition attached, no bride price paid yet. Sometimes, the couple may have grand children as well before the man would go and meet with  the parent to start fulfilling his marital obligation as the customs and tradition demands and sometimes some of their children are already in the universities and some have finished schooling and some must have married and have grand children as well. This is the most common type of marriage in most of the civilized world.

Under the  premarital sex relationship is possible to find agape lovers unlike the fully married couples that are already bound by their customs and tradition and the wife never leave the house until dead separate them but under the premarital sex relationship they can part away any time; so it naturally requires the agape love to keep them together independently.


            " VIRGIN LOVE” and “DISVIRGINED LOVE”

Now there are two types of agape love; one is without sex and the other involves sex;  but the one without sex is more dangerous than the one with sex. The agape love without sex is what I called “VIRGIN LOVE” and that one with sex I called “DISVIRGINED LOVE” based on the following factors:-

Under the virgin love, the man had not known her sexually but keep on appealing to her with lover which might take some numbers of years (1 -3 years or more); therefore his love for her is still virgin likewise the woman . Although if either of them latter marries, whenever they see each other in public places feels guilty and ashamed depending on who disappoints the other because the love is still virgin. They will remain in that state of mind until dead. The guilt comes up as they see each other, immediately, the woman or the man would remember the true love he or she exhibited to him or her and now going through in the hands of different men or women in search of true love  and that could take some numbers of years before he or she could realize it;  may be that she had got children from different fathers or him from different women yet they are still searching for real love. Both the man or the woman will be suffering from constant emotional torture and heart break from one woman to another and from one man to another in search of real love because the agape love will naturally fight back anywhere they live   in the world.  Sometimes the man or woman remains barren without children and they attribute it  to evil spirit and would fight his or her economy just as the Lord told Satan to tempt Job and destroyed all his wealth including his children without the man or the woman knowing it cause.

Also the lady might be a virgin from birth and a man engages her before he travels to abroad and forgets about the engagement while the lady is waiting for him to return to fulfill his martial rites but disappointed her and fall in love with another woman and she later married to another man.  The man could return to her after had been tortured by Agape spirit while in abroad through other women he fell in love with and later return home but discover  that  already the home lady he engaged for marriage has married to  another man and so continue to remain in that condition- jumping from one woman to another.

 He now realized the faithfulness of that lady because he could not find any of her type likewise the woman if she disappoints the man because of another man. Under this situation, prayers and fasting cannot solve it even though he approached any famous man of God to pray for him. Unless he goes back to her and apologize and make restitution privately  if necessary but she must not break her marriage or have fun with the  man secretly because if they  do  they have committed adultery hecause she is with another man already either in full traditional marriage or premarital sex relationship. God considers them as husband and wife.

But if the lady refused his proposal entirely and no engagement yet that is even worst because she must reciprocate his kind gesture  in other words  appreciate the degree of love he has demonstrated to her even though she would refuse him taking her to bed but shall become friends even though she marries another man of her choice. But if she does not appreciate but take it as a pride no man would love her. She will in return give all her heart to a man of her choice but the man will fail her and so she will be moving from one man to another in search of true love but will be very so scarce just as she did to the man because love itself is a spirit and is God that created the whole universe and therefore has power to create and to destroy. So “it does not matter” does not come in but it matters a lot in the spiritual world. That is why so many men and women are frustrated  in their marriage even though they have children from different women and different men yet their children  ignore them because they did not care for them. They only do anything to please and to protect their marriage with the new husband or wife to the detriment of the children. 

“Disvirgined” love means already the man has taken the woman to bed but they do not marry and that is fornication. Sex is for a purpose; either you use it in marriage or for fornication in case of casual sex. One may say “I do not want to marry him or her; we are just friends” – which is fornication. A man and woman can become friends but if they go to bed then it no longer friend rather they are fornicating. Therefore it is a sin for man or woman to open her mouth to tell somebody that he is my boy friend or girl friend or man or woman friend when already they do go to bed. The bed is for marriage couples and not for casual sex or fornication and sex is the bond between a man and woman in marriage. Therefore when a man or woman had seen each other even just one day God sees them as husband and wife without any protocol to be observed. In that case he disregards any traditional rites or official marriage ceremony because already they have known themselves on the bed as husband and wife.

The disvirgined love does not have so much impact on each other unlike the virgin love which does not involve sex. Even though they have seen themselves on the bed on ones or  several occasions but refuse to marry which may be either the man or the woman refuse to marry him or her, and eventually, she or he latter marries to another man or woman, they do not feel guilty for disappointing themselves because already their love had been disvirgined through sex. Sometimes if they meet on the road after they had separated for several years ago, the woman might pretend that she does not know him and would not extend any greeting to him likewise the man. They behave as stranger to each other and the woman would be regretting to have given her body to the man to know her. In some cases, they would greet each other but no much impact or feeling any guilt or regret because already they have known themselves on the bed. Unless the man or the woman disappointed him or her because of another man or woman but later the relationship with the new man or woman was broken; that is where he or  she would come back to him or her to render an apology so they can come back again if he or she had not married yet because already they have had the sexual bond long time ago.

 It is very easy for them to come back again and even re-marry and not those of virgin love. The problem of virgin lovers is that already the man had vowed that he will never talk to her again about love after he had received all the insults and abuses for several years from her and yet disappointed him. He will hold on to his ground even unto dead while at the same time becomes  a very big problem to the woman spiritually  as she would be overwhelmed with guilt for disappointing him after she must have seen herself passed through several men and all of them disappointed her and that is the power behind the virgin love where there is no sex involved. 


Therefore, the virgin love takes over the nature of marine spiritual husband or ancesstoral spirit tormenting her and goes beyond casting and binding by any man of God on earth but it is possible for a disvirgined lovers because of the sexual bond that they  have had before. They are still seen as husband and wife even though they separated several years ago.  Prayer could be easily effective by binding and casting because the bond is there and can reconcile at anytime and or he or she can have peace with his new wife or her husband even though they do not come together again in marriage because already they have satisfied themselves sexually and the woman does not owe the man love because she had given her body to him in return as conpensation for his love for her. That is why it does not have so much impact on the woman unlike the virgin love. 

The only solution is that she should later show appreciation to the man even though he is happily married. By greeting him well, associating with him occasionally if there is an opportunity like place of ceremonies, sending him gifts, apologizing to him about the  insults and abuses he had  suffered in the cause of appealing to her in those years. He should never think of taking her to bed  because already he had vowed that he will never talk to her again about love; so he must keep on to his vow. If he fails and take her to bed, it will take away his life because love kills. Based on the fact that the lady suffers all these because of him and must not betray the agape spirit that wage war against her when already he had vowed; so it is considered  as a betrayal on his part. So the lady should   make peace with him and seeing each other as friends as explained above; that is the only solution that will gradually restore her happiness.  She must take away shame in the process of making peace with him as a woman. 

The man must be sure that he actually needs a wife before involved in .premarital sex relationship and not to deceive the lady whom he had already seen her nakedness and then abandon her for another lady;  and using this same method  to deceive women around with all kind of fake promises of marrying them. 

God is a witness between  you and the wife of your youth under the premarital sex relationship you called “my Girl Friend or Boy Friend”. What God needs from both of you are Godly offerings (God fearing children). He hate you divorcing her for another woman for being so unfaithful to her after you have taken her to bed and had become husband already in the eye of God (Mal. 2:14-16). 


Sex determines the sin of fornication and without sex there is no marriage and without sex no sin of fornication or adultery. Therefore, if a man marries a wife and fulfills all the marital rites legally but refuse to make love to her she is not yet his wife. But right from his house she begin to play secret love with another man who takes her to bed she becomes his real wife right from the first day and not the man who paid her bride price and had fulfill all the marital rites because God only recognize “sex” as the bond binding both of them and not the  price paid which is optional because marital rites and bride price is the fulfillment of the customs and tradition of men on earth and not in heaven (Mat. 22:28 ).

Therefore sex becomes the ultimate and  the determining factor which attract the sin of fornication (like  prostitute moving from one man to another or from one woman to another ) and Adultery (if already married with a man or woman but do have casual sex with another man secretly). None payment of bride price will not land you in hell fire but the sin of fornication.(moving from one man to another man and from one woman to another without settled down with a man or a woman in marriage). A man may decide to give his own daughter to another man in marriage free of charge without demanding dowry. During war time, you may choose any woman you like from your enemies and marry her after her parent her killed  and no dowry is paid and no marriage ceremonies held. (Deut. 21:10-14) 

Therefore if you deceive a lady and she lay curse on you it will affect you in as much as both of you have seen each other on the bed and the same applies to the woman because sex is the bond and not the wedding ring or marriage certificate that makes you husband and wife. 

To be cont. in part 13